"I know who I am, and I know who I am not. I know what I am, and I know what I am not. I have died and I have lived. I am alive. I am a man."

Dr Jerry Mofokeng wa Makhetha, beloved and award-winning actor, always felt like an outsider in his family. His mother told him a story about how he was wailing as a baby when he was introduced to his father's family for the first time. At the age of 58, by chance, he discovers who his real father is. Suddenly the unease he has been living with so long made sense. Dr Jerry takes us on a journey through his life: he gives us a glimpse into his family life, his kids and his love for his wife. He takes us to meet characters like John Kani, Hugh Masikela, and to his time at Columbia University in New York. He writes funny and poignantly about his career. He shares his wounds and his victories. Along the way he learnt some very important lessons on manhood. This is a memoir, but also a challenge for men to take up their masculinity in a responsible way.